Break Up and How To Cope – 3 Ways To Tell If They Really Want You Back

When you have just had a break up with your partner and are trying to cope with the loneliness and sheer pain of being without them, the thing that is uppermost in your mind is whether they might have made a mistake.

You think about how the break up happened, what led up to it and wonder whether your ex might now be regretting having left you. 

You look for any sign that they might have changed their minds, or be unsure about what they have done and of course you want to take any opportunity you can to squeeze through a gap like this, no matter how small it may seem.

But because you are feeling so emotional and possibly desperate to have your ex back, you find it almost impossible to tell what is real and what is just wishful thinking on your part.

The last thing you want to do is convince yourself that your ex is sending out signals that they want to get back together with you and declare your undying love, when they were just being polite or feeling sorry for you.

Nothing is more guaranteed to frighten them off and have them running for the hills.

So understanding how to recognise the signs that your ex really does want you back will help you to cope with your break up better and get them back for good if that is what you want.

Look out for any of these actions that might flag their renewed interest in you:

Everywhere You Go – They Turn Up

They might keep turning up at places you go to.  Of course if this is the nightclub you both go to or the office you both work in, then it doesn't mean anything at all.  But if it is somewhere you wouldn't expect to see them, especially somewhere they wouldn't have been seen dead in before you broke up, then you can be fairly sure that you are the main attraction.

Other hints in this category could be

They Keep Finding Excuses To Be In Your Company Or Talk To You

You will know this is happening if you are struggling to understand why they are doing something in a completely different way to normal. How do you spot these things?

They have moved out of your home and are usually very organised and like to get things done in one fell swoop.  But they are coming back for their belongings practically one by one.

They insist on coming to collect their post everyday –even though you have told them about the  mail re-direct service.

They Are Still Behaving As Though You Are In A Relationship

When couples break up, it is not common to continue to do those little (or big) things for each other that you had got into the habit of doing whilst you were together.

So if they are doing any of the following, it is likely that they cannot make that break and are still thinking about getting back with you:

They come back every Thursday to put the bins out

They text you with a reminder every time it's someone's birthday – you never could remember without them.  

They keep their joint account at the bank with you and continue to have their wages paid in

You find them sat in your living room at 7.30pm waiting to watch coronation street with you – okay that one is a bit tongue in cheek – but you get the idea.