Getting Back With Your Ex - Questions to Help You Decide

How do you deal with an ex who was once unfaithful to you but is now trying to win you back? Should you open your heart again and welcome him back?

Although statistical results vary, generally speaking, men get involved in extra marital affairs than women. One study said that about 60% of men and 40% of women would have at least one affair during their marriage or a committed relationship. Infidelity ranks as one of the top reasons why relationships fail. It is considered by many as the most painful experience a person can go through in a relationship.

If your partner has been unfaithful to you but is now remorseful and has asked for your forgiveness, what do you do next? Below are some questions to help you decide whether you will get back with your ex or not:

1. Are you prepared to forgive your partner for being unfaithful? This is probably the hardest question to answer, because the pain that comes with the discovery of the affair can cloud your thinking. It may make you think that the act is unforgivable. On the other hand, it may also make you think that it was your fault why the affair happened, and your partner deserves to be forgiven.

2. Are you willing to work towards making your relationship more successful? Maintaining a relationship requires hard work and dedication. When an affair happens, it is usually because there are other things wrong in the relationship already. Perhaps the level of intimacy with your partner has decreased through the years, perhaps your partner has felt let down or neglected in your relationship.

3. Are you ready to forget the past and work on a better future with your partner? Some would usually say that forgiving is easy, but forgetting is not. Ask yourself if you can find it in your heart to forget the past and look forward to a more loving relationship with your partner.

If you answered yes to all the questions above, then your heart and your mind are ready to welcome your ex back. It will take a lot of work - reviving passion and excitement, improving communication, expressing dedication to making the relationship work. Let your partner convince you that a reconciliation is worth it.

Although infidelity is prevalent, it does not necessarily have to result to a break up or a divorce. If the partners are willing to preserve and improve the relationship, then they may deserve a second chance.