Getting your boyfriend back is a favorite topic among women who had just gone through painful breakups. It's only natural to want him back in your lif...
Getting your boyfriend back is a favorite topic among women who had just gone through painful breakups. It's only natural to want him back in your life if you know in your heart that he is the man for you. But you need to be careful on how you will go about doing this. As you probably know by now,
getting your boyfriend back is not as simple as showing up on his doorstep, asking him to take you back, which by the way, isn't something that can guarantee reconciliation.
Sure, everyone may tell you, just move on and give up the whole thing. But you know it's not that easy, right? After all, you and your boyfriend made dreams together. You can not imagine your life without him and the thought that he'll spend his life with someone else simply drives a dagger through your heart.
It's not easy getting your boyfriend back, but it shouldn't be like inventing the wheel, either. Women go through breakups everyday. Some of them come out of it unscathed and with their self esteem intact. Some are just downright miserable and broken hearted. Yet, a lot of them were able to move on and survive that challenging time of their lives.
Women all over the world had survived breakups, separations, divorces, even deaths of their spouses and came out of these experiences stronger and more confident. You can do the same thing. Getting your boyfriend back is just an option - it should not be the only recourse left for you. You can either try to make him realize that reconciliation is possible, or you can just move on and live your life all over.
If you do decide that you want to work on getting your boyfriend back, not out of desperation, but because you know in your heart that it is the right thing to do, then go for it.
Try your best to understand what went wrong in the relationship. Is there some love left after the separation? Is that love enough to spark a longer lasting relationship the next time around? Has trust been broken, meaning was infidelity the cause of the breakup? Can that little bit of trust left be restored and nurtured? Is there still some respect left for each other even after the ugly things you've said against each other?
These are basic elements that make a relationship last - love, trust and respect. If one or the other is totally gone in the relationship, then there is no hope remaining for it to survive.
So ask yourself if those 3 basic things are still in your heart, then find out from your ex if there's a little bit of spark left in his heart and if you can both give it another try.
If it turns out that there's very little left to work on and you don' t see your ex coming forward either, then you may have to seriously consider moving on and starting all over. Remember, you are one with all the other women who survived breakups and led even more fulfilling lives.
