How to Act When You Like a Woman – Part 1

I get a lot of questions from guys asking all kinds of questions about how to behave around women.

In fact, this might be one of the areas that guys want to know the most about.

I've been doing a lot of thinking over the past year or so about the concept of being "cool".

In other words, I've been watching people (myself included) to see if I could figure out why some people are considered "cool" while some are considered "not-so-cool"... and more importantly, how to use this idea to have more success with women.

So what is a "cool guy"?

And what is it about a guy who's "cool" that makes women feel more attracted to him than an "uncool" guy?

Let me tell you a few quick mini-stories about guys I've known who were un-cool.

One friend I used to have loved to argue with people. He would start arguments about anything and always take the opposite perspective on every topic. He did this with women all the time too. I think he felt like he was coming across as smart when he argued. Guess what? Women hated it, and ran as soon as he started in. His guy friends hated it too. He was un-cool because his insecurity was so strong, that he had to argue to get attention.

Another friend I have always tries to do nice things and favors for women he likes. As soon as he meets a woman he likes, he tries to find something he can do for her. Of course, he then gets upset when the woman doesn't return the feelings of affection... and he acts upset and "taken advantage of". This, of course, makes women run away. As you can probably guess, he's trying to manipulate women with favors. And women resent him for it. Women don't think he's cool, and they avoid him.

I know one guy who loves to tell women how beautiful they are, buys them drinks  and dinners, and pursues them with the "You're the greatest thing in the world and I'm going to chase you around and try to buy your attention". And even though he's doing a lot of "nice" things for the women he's interested in, he can't keep one around for more than a date or two. Even his guy friends think that he needs to calm down and act more "cool" in general.

Now, all three of the guys I've mentioned above have different problems... but the way I see it, they're all strangely related.