Does Romance Have A Place In Dating? – Part 3

If you've gone out with a woman 47 times, and you don't know if she likes you, and you're now thinking, "Oh, hey... great idea! I'll buy her a flower and she'll feel attracted to me..." then get a new idea.Romance isn't a way to make a woman feel attracted to you.Romance is a way to amplify attraction that is already happening.Read that last part again... Don’t try to make a woman feel attracted to you with romance!Attraction is created by factors other than gifts, dinners, flowers, etc.If she's not feeling attracted to you, then showing her that you're attracted to her probably isn't going to change it... in fact, it may just push her away.I know, I know... you once heard about a guy who pursued a woman for 9 years until she finally gave in and married him. Well, that might work, but I don't have 9 years (unless it's Cindy Crawford... yeah, I know she's like 50, but she's still hot).Earlier I mentioned a couple of great ideas. You can cook her a special meal that has meaning... and tell the story behind it. Stories are romantic, especially if the story contains a love story.And small gifts can be romantic as well (I don't like big gifts because they change the dynamic of the relationship and can create all kinds of feelings that it's a trade of affection for money, etc.).If you pay attention, a woman will mention something that she really likes. It could be a kind of flower, a kind of music, an author, etc. If you want to be romantic (after you know that she's attracted to you) you can get something thoughtful then write a card that says, "I was thinking about you, and I found this... thought you would like it. Kiss Kiss."Use romance as the spice, and not the main dish. Use it to amplify, not as your main strategy.Romance combined with the techniques that I teach is a very powerful combination.