How To Cope With Break Up -What Happens When Your Ex Was Also Your Best Friend?

Coping with a break up is always hard to do, but what if your ex was also your best friend? That's a real double whammy.

Lots of relationships start out when best friends get together.  It's obvious why.  You have interests in common.  You probably already share a circle of friends and hang out in the same places.  You have time to get to know each other before you start a relationship.

You know each other's likes and dislikes, what makes them laugh and what makes them cry.  You have probably shared more than one secret and had a good cry on each other's shoulders.

So when your relationship breaks up you are losing a whole lot more than the average person.  It's like losing two people in one and it hurts like hell.

How do you repair a relationship that has gone wrong in spite of knowing each other so well?

Well, you can use your knowledge about your ex to decide how to take the next steps.  You know them well enough to decide whether the relationship is capable of being saved, and if that's what you really want.

Try not to make the mistake of concentrating only on whether the relationship is retrievable – it may well be – but is that what will make you both happy?  You don't want to go back into the same relationship with its same old problems that caused the break up in the first place.  What would you do differently this time?

You also need to think about whether there is a chance that you can stay good friends after the break up and get your old friendship back on a proper footing.  This way you might be losing a lover but keeping your best friend.  What are the chances that your friendship would survive two break ups?

If however, you can't bear to be without your ex and you have made the decision to try and get them back, you need to think carefully about how you are going to achieve that.