Some common-sense advice that can help better survive the often harrowing and nerve-racking first date. That first date is so vital that you want to be certain you make the best decisions.
Some words for that first all-important date. So what's the gameplan,
what do you do? It's obvious, there are many options from which to select, but will hinge upon just how good you know the person you are seeing.
In a first date circumstances, if you don't have a history or know a lot about the person you are getting together with, you want try to avoid places where you will have to talk, and avoid a place where you will not have to talk. Which means finding some kind of middle ground where you both will be comfortable and unguarded.
Perhaps some places to avoid could include an expensive dinner where there will likely be uncomfortable occasions with pockets of silence just begging to be filled. Having said that, if you go to instead a movie, you won’t be talking at all, and thusly little or no information will actually be exchanged.
So you actually want to journey to a place where you both can have some fun and talk in a low pressure environment. This way, if things go wrong the surroundings can give you a way out and something to fall back on.
That is why your smartest move is to pick a hobby you both enjoy. Maybe it’s sporting event or venturing to the beach or going to the shopping center. Whatever your choice, you want to be around other people and in an interesting environment that make it simple to keep conversation flowing.
And if you get the feeling that later on in your date things are going great, you can then take second step by meeting later for a high class dinner, but from the start there really is no need to rush.
Essentially, on that first day it’s more of a getting to know you process. Are you compatible with the your date, do you get along, do you share similar thoughts and pursuits, and above all is it worth while to set up another date.
That said, let’s say that the date is just not working out, that doesn’t have to mean you two are inappropriate with each other. Almost never do you really get that twinkle on the very first date. Of course sometimes it does actually happen, but normally not. That’s why it’s often worth a shot to try a second date just to give the two of you some more time to see if things might work out.
Further, by giving it more time you might also conjure up some new questions you’d like to ask of your date, or maybe you grow some affection. However if your first date is a total turkey then there is no need to arrange a another date. No need to waste your time.
