Do you want to date a single mum, but feel like a fish out of water when you're facing her? Do you want to feel part of her family, but you have some issues within yourself that you aren't sure of just yet? Do you think that you have got what it takes to commit to someone like a single mum? If yes, then welcome to the wonderful world of single mums dating.
It has been proven that nothing quite makes a guy run so fast in the opposite direction as COMMITMENT. Especially, if within himself, he knows that he isn't ready to commit just yet. By then, the commitment anxiety doubles up. Sometimes, even more than that.
The good news is that this is a perfectly natural reaction. The bad news is that you have to get over this anxiety if you want that single mum that you have been eyeing as your one, true, life-long love.
Now, basically, the rules with loving and dating a single mum, are the same as the rules that are present when dating ladies without children. But because of their experience and wisdom, single mums tend to be wiser, and a bit more wary of men, compared to other ladies. Good thing though, is that once you gain their trust, things would rapidly progress.
So here are three routes to get into your single mum's heart:
1. Do be true and honest.
The last thing she needs is a mindless fling or someone who is just playing her. She deserves more than that. This woman deserves someone sincere and honest with their intentions with her, plus who is willing to be part of the responsibility of child-rearing in the future.
2. Romance is the key.
The fact that she is a single mum would be enough to tell you that, yes, probably, she had been dealt with some very harsh cards by the master of the game. But single mums are ladies and women too. Meaning that they appreciate the small, romantic gestures that you will make, by surprising her with small gifts that you know she would like.
3. Get to know her kid/s.
Of course, the children are part of the package. I'm not saying that when you fall in love with her, that you should fall in love with her kids at the same time. Just that you need to remind yourself that she has the little one/s with her if you decide to pursue her seriously. Now, interact with her kids often. Fair warning though, kids are really smart, especially kids of single parents. So you must genuinely like them before attempting to interact with them, or you would unnecessarily get their guards up. But if you act on it in the right way, then the kid/s would love you and would earn you big points in his/her/their mother's eyes.
