To Win Back A Lost Love Avoid Making These Two Common Mistakes

Well the real answer of why it's difficult to win back a lost love is really a two-fold problem. The first point is that once you've been dumped by someone you're still in love with, the balance of power immediately shifts their way. The second point is that most people have no real idea what to do to successfully get back with someone they love and so end up spending a great deal of time racing around doing all the wrong things.

Truth is, once your ex has the upper hand in a relationship you can find yourself forever trying to catch up to them - and both of you know it. If your lost love knows that you want them back often times they will make you work to get them back AND, they will often enjoy the drama of putting you through hoops in your attempts to getting them back. Plainly put, they have something that you desperately want and boy oh boy - do they know it.

To win back a lost love then, play it cool! You don't have to declare straight away to your ex that you want them back. You simply keep that intention to yourself and make every effort to distance yourself from them.

If you're reading this because you feel you know that your love is about to break up with you, then when the break up comes agree to it calmly and rationally and let them go. Don't give them a clue that you desperately want them to stay.

When they've gone, work at keeping yourself busy and occupied with other things that are not centered around your lost love and your relationship. Don't make yourself readily available to them to chat or do favors for them. If they call, be polite, chat for a couple of minutes, but make it clear you're busy and have places to go.

Here's a warning for you! Many people faced with trying to distance themselves from their exs simply can't do it! They mistakenly believe that if they run around doing favors for their lost love that their ex will see them as someone they need. They think they will be able to prove and show their exs how much they love them by being there for them! Wrong! This seldom works because all that happens is that the ex either gets fed up with them hanging around in their life or the ex will start to take advantage of them and the situation. So don't fall into that trap!

I know that this has been said over and over – time and time again, but it's the awful honest truth! Think of your own experiences. Maybe you've been the one to break up with someone in the past. Can you recognize yourself now, in how they acted in that past breakup? How would YOU feel if you broke up with someone and they just kept “pestering” you – or begging you, or continued to show their dependence on you?

Keep your distance and what will begin to happen is that you will feel the power, the balance, naturally swing your way and you will be in a far better position to win back a lost love.

TW Jackson has dedicated himself to making sure that you understand and apply all the secrets (they not really secrets – just common sense), tricks (they're not even tricks – just time proven techniques) and steps to take to ensure that you have the best possible chance of getting back an ex.