Divorce Forms - Think In Terms Of Settlement

Divorces can be expensive.  The reason for divorces being so expensive is because the husband and the wife both ‘lawyer up’ and usually do so with the misguided perception that they are going to ‘win’ the divorce.  The good news about divorce is that it does not have to be expensive. 

Yes it is true that divorce is not cheap.  Yes it is true that divorce will never be cheap.  The reality of divorce is that it will cost both you and your ex some money in order to finalize and that is true regardless of whether the divorce is uncontested or whether the divorce turns into a ‘knock down drag out’ fight.

In the event that you or someone close to you is about to go through a divorce, then we recommend that you do think in terms of ‘settlement’.  During the divorce, the emotions of both you and your ex are going to run high and both of you will face the ever looming temptation to ‘lawyer up’ and try to ‘win’.  So long as the you all will avoid giving in to that temptation and will think not in terms of ‘win’, but instead think in terms of ‘settlement’, then chances are high that things will work themselves out in the end.

Below is a list of three tips for thinking in terms of ‘settlement’.  Our advice is that you read the three tips and then get into the mindset that you ARE going to settle the divorce outside of court:

Tip Number One: Only Rely On Good Advice.  During the later stages of the marriage and during the early stages of the divorce, you are going to have family members and friends giving you all sorts of advice.  Whenever you receive their advice, keep in mind that they mean well, but use your commonsense as to which advice is ‘good’ and should be relied on.

Tip Number Two: Communicate With Your Ex.  The communication between you and your ex does not necessarily mean that the two of you have to be friends.  What we recommend is that you and your ex communicate with each other well enough and often enough that a full and final settlement can be reached.

Tip Number Three: Avoid ‘Lawyering Up’.  Whenever you go and ‘lawyer up’, naturally your ex is going to do the same thing.  When both of you has lawyered up, communication between you will come to a stand still which will make settlement that much harder.