What’s a girl to do when her boyfriend REALLY wants to try anal sex, especially when he tries SO hard to please her? Can she say 'no' without him feeling rejected? Should she try it at least once?
Men and women tend to approach sex differently. This isn’t to say that women don’t enjoy or want sex just as much as men, but they don’t tend to go about it the same way. Women tend to prefer more foreplay and seduction.
Couples that are completely open and honest with each other can experience an amazing sex life playing together. This is because they listen to each other, and they discover each other’s fantasies and desires.
They also know that having a great sex life is about more than experiencing amazing orgasms in various positions. It’s about trying and experiencing new things together - truly playing together.
The problem comes in when one partner ups the ante and wants to try something more exotic than their lover is comfortable with.
This can be the woman maybe wanting to tie her lover up, the man wanting to try anal sex with his girlfriend, or hundreds of other exotic sexual permutations.
And since anal sex is such a popular fantasy for so many men, let’s talk about how this desire impacts all the women who are dealing with those men.
Of course, pushing boundaries is often just half the fun for sexual play, so it’s important to peel back those fears and figure out where they started.
So what’s a girl to do when her boyfriend REALLY wants to try anal sex, especially when he tries SO hard to please her?
Here’s a question from a lady in Florida facing this sexual dilemma with her boyfriend…
Dear Dan and Jennifer,
I have recently started dating this very great guy. I introduced him to the family, and he got their approval. Usually this does not happen, so I got the green light from my family, and friends, and even random neighbors! Everyone says "you look great together!" Plus I feel very happy around him. He calls me all the time, pays me respect and attention and even has declared that he wants to marry me if I permit it.
Okay, so the problem is this. When we have sex, he is very focused and he puts all of his energy and stamina into it… which lasts a little too long for my taste! Also he is very experimental and wants to satisfy my every request! This is great right?
Well, now he pushed up the stakes and wants to try Anal sex! I don’t want to try it because I read that it is dangerous or bad, and I don’t want to break this taboo. However I have been extremely experimental in the past, but I never tried this. Am I being too prudish or what? How should I maintain a great sex life and relationship with him, but not make him feel rejected or limited in the bedroom?
– Cynthia, Florida
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