Social Communication - 3 Secret Easy Ways to Increase Your Attraction Power

Social Communication - 3 Secret Easy Ways to Increase Your Attraction Power
How many people can make a better hamburger than McDonalds? Many people are most likely to say that they are able to do it. But how many of them are able to make more money than McDonalds? Answer is probably not. As Ray Kroc would put it, "It is not what you do, but how you do it that matters."
Here are 3 quick and easy ways to increase your attraction power. Keep in mind, it is not what you do that matters, it is how you do it.
1. Learn How to Convey Stories Using Emotional Words People, especially women, react towards conversations that have more emotional words in them. Take for example, if you were to say that "Today's weather is bright", what you had just inferred to the listener would be a fact. It is bright.
Remember, it is not what you say, but how you say it.
If you were to say instead, "Today is such a glorious, happy and bright day!" You are still implying that the day is bright.
However, there is a dramatic difference on the part of the listener. By using the words glorious and happy, you give happy and positive emotions towards the listener. And by doing so, you create positive value for them.
People are attracted towards people who give them positive valuable benefits, and by just slightly altering your words you use, you convey a totally different meaning and emotion towards the listener. It will take some conscious practice to completely master this, but it is one of the easiest fundamental ways to increase your attraction power.
2. Give Value to People Practice emotional and social philanthropy. By giving more value in terms of positive emotions towards others, you gain a lot more attraction. Your state in which you start communicating should be aiming not towards your benefit but to benefit others.
Imagine that you were to hand people a million dollars in cash because they won the lottery. Will you feel excited? Will you feel happy to do it?
That is how you should approach conversations. Instead of expecting to benefit from conversations, expect to give value. By doing so, you will in turn, naturally receive more benefits as you will not appear as a manipulative communicator.
It is important that in communication that you maintain sincere and generous.
Then again, remember that it is how you do it and not what you have. Although you are giving value and benefit to them, you must also exercise control in your social communications. Do that by not adhering towards their requests.
Although you are there to give value, you shall not submit towards their requests in their benefit. Instead, by giving them value based on your own timings and power, you get to keep in power and set the frame that you are in control of who deserves the value.
3. Allow attempts of Defamation towards you to pass through It is how you handle the defamation of people towards you that count. In every conversation, there would most likely be people who try to at some point for some particular reason, try their best to defame you by acting as if they control you.
How have you handled this in the past? Did you try to rebut back? Did you try to appear angry and pose threats? How many of these actually work? None, instead, they make you look to reactive and that you feel that the comment hurts you.
It is how you handle it that counts.
By reacting towards their attempts, you are acknowledging their power to rate you. You are giving them power. The best way to counter such attempts would be to just calmly completely ignore them. You could just say things like, "That's cool".
By doing this, you acknowledge their attempt but you appear to be unaffected by it. By appearing to be unaffected by it, you appear to have more dominance in the social communication group.
Summary Always remember, it is not what you have, but how you do it that counts. Remember that, and there are many things in your social communication which you can improve on. This can also apply towards you other aspects in your life as well.
Towards Your Success, L. Aaron