The Female Orgasm

Orgasms: what’s not to like? They feel great, they relieve tension and, ever since your first one, you’ve certainly been perfecting the art. But have you wondered just how varied the range can be? Just as Eskimos have hundreds of words for ‘snow’, a girl can have many, many types of orgasm – and like snowflakes, no two orgasms are the same but there are categories they fall into. Look at the following for inspiration and have fun trying them out.

The Multiple Orgasm

There are actually two strains of this type of climax – multiple and multi – and which one you have depends on how you react after you’ve come. Like men, after orgasm some women experience a period of time when they’re too sensitive to have sex again; they have to back away from pleasure before starting once more.

If you’re hypersensitive after climaxing, it means you can have multiple orgasms. Give yourself a grace period before starting stimulation again. Get your man to stay inside you after you come, then count 5 or 10 of your vaginal contractions before you begin whatever brings you to orgasm again. Experiment with the amount of recovery time you need, to see if you can catch a wave of pleasure back up to the top.

For many other women, orgasm is more like a roller coaster – they get to the top and then have smaller hills and valleys. These women are having multi-orgasms. Sounds like you? Then don’t back away when you feel post passion pleasure – turn an aftershock into another orgasm by keeping the stimulation going, even when you’re sure you are done.

The Elusive Orgasm

It’s the most frustrating experience in the world; an orgasm that taunts you with its pleasurable properties but never quite makes its intentions clear. A lot of it is fear of completely letting go. Orgasm is the most intimate, emotional act. It’s completely involuntary. You can’t will it to happen. But because your release has eluded you, your muscles are more tense – and the release of that tension is all the more satisfying.

Sink into the sensation and pay attention to your body, not your performance. Trying the old tantric trick of looking into your partner’s eyes will bring you back into the present. Most of all, don’t put pressure on yourself. Getting into bed with the single goal of bagging an orgasm won’t get you off. Enjoy the journey and the destination may find you after all.

The Soul Orgasm

There’s sex and climax – and then there’s the sky splitting experience that takes your orgasm into the spiritual realm. This orgasm really makes you feel like you’re becoming one with your man. Let go of cynicism and open yourself up to the idea that sex is more than just a bodily experience. Make sure there’s lots of eye contact. Be well versed in his ultimate turn-on and his thrill will make your pleasure even deeper.

The Solo G-spot Orgasm

You’ve heard of the G-spot orgasm, where your guy crooks his finger inside your vagina in a come-hither motion, stimulating a wrinkly spot (the periurethral sponge) at the front of the vaginal canal. But if you haven’t managed to have a G-spot orgasm, practicing on your own might make you feel less self-conscious. A regular orgasm involves vaginal muscle contractions and waves feel good sensations. A G-spot orgasm is harder, more intense and passes quicker. It also calls for a firmer assault on the area.

The T-zone Orgasm

Once you’ve found the G-spot, you can head further up your vaginal wall, towards your belly button, and begin searching for the T-zone. The Trigone zone is a nerve rich area that controls the bladder and creates pleasure. You feel it all over. A T-zone orgasm is a powerful wave of energy that takes up a lot more of your body than a regular one. It can last a lot longer too.

How do you approach the T-zone?

A toy helps because you do have to go deep. A long vibrator with a wide, throbby end, inserted deeply, then tipped towards the belly button, will do the trick. Alternatively, lie on your tummy with your man inside you, entering from behind – experiment until he’s pushing against the same spot. Once the pleasure begins, your inner physiognomy may change; your uterus contracts, pulling the T-spot up and away from where it was; some women have to chase it, so be intrepid.