If you have recently broken up with your girlfriend, or are experiencing 'time apart', then you will realise how difficult it can be to resist the temptation of contacting her online.
What's the secret to make your ex boyfriend jump over hoops,
climb over mountains and walk over fire to be with you, spend time with you and devote himself to you?
If you're thinking, "Does a man like that even exist?" Or "Is this even possible?"
Then this article is for you.
What is the secret to make your ex boyfriend stop in his tracks, stop looking for more dates, more women, to put all his doubts and fears about commitment aside and devote himself to you and you only? And willingly do so?
Men are simple creatures and they give very simple clues to women when they are interested in her.
The most obvious one is that he'll be calling you... a lot... nearly everyday, to hear your voice, to listen to you laugh, to make fun of you and tease you, to want to be close to you.
So, if your guy isn't calling you nearly everyday, regularly, wanting to know what you're up to, what your plans are and what happened to that job offer you got the other week, then it's a sure sign that his interest in you is only "lukewarm" right now.
Notice, I said, right now. You can turn up the heat and make him hot for you as long as you understand how men think and what stimulates that "attraction" in him to do so.
How do you do that?
Here's my 3 steps to make him call you more!
Step 1: Don't Call Him!
Some women assume if you don't call, he will think she's lost interest in him and he'd run off to pursue some other woman. Wrong! It is more natural for a man to pursue a woman, to pursue YOU. If you're pursuing him, why would he need to pursue you?
If a guy is seeing two different women: one calls him every day, the other rarely calls him at all. Who do you think he'd call more?
Do you really think he would "forget" about the woman who didn't call him? Or would he realize that in order to figure out which woman he wanted to be with, he would need to call the one who didn't call him, because how else would he get close to her? And what about the woman who constantly called him? Well, he'd be confident she's into him, so subsequently, his desire to pursue her is also diminished.
Make him WORK to find out more about you, to want to know if you're "the one" for him. You don't need to, nor would I advice you, to pursue him.
Step 2: Why Isn't He Calling?
If you follow step 1 and he still isn't calling after a reasonable amount of time (waiting all afternoon does not count as a reasonable amount of time), then you need to ask yourself, have you given him enough "bait" to call you?
A "bait" is a reason for a guy to pursue you. This could be because you're interesting, different, intriguing, sexy, fun, intelligent etc.
On the other hand, instead of throwing out "baits" to hook him, you may be throwing empty lines or even worse, making so much noise that it is scaring him away.
Some women inadvertently "train" a man to NOT call by becoming angry, emotional or cold when he does call.
On the other hand, some women don't show enough of their personality to intrigue a guy to want to call either.
Make sure that when there is interaction between the two of you, you're able to put your best foot forward, so you're not accidentally scaring him away.
Step 3: Reveal Some, Not All
Find a healthy balance between revealing some parts of yourself and keeping some parts a secret. The trick to this though is to "hint" at this "other" side of you that he won't see just yet.
Keep him on his toes by being slightly ambiguous and by hinting at other parts of you.
For example: "I'm nice 98% of the time, but then the other 2%... well that's another story."
Or "I can't cook really, but I make mean pancakes. I have a secret ingredient that I don't share with anyone."
Or "That's the short version, I'd have to tell you the long version some other time."
These are great baits for conversion in the future, because he may be cooking pancakes one morning and remember your conversation and then decide to give you a call.
Drop plenty of these into your conversation where appropriate. Remember, less can be much more in this context.
These 3 steps should help you get started.
Remember:
Don't call him. Allow him to call you instead.
Give him enough bait so he has reasons to call, and when he does call, train him to call you more!
Reveal some, not all. The secret to keeping a guy intrigued is mystery. This mystery is what keeps the spark going.
So once a guy is calling you, how do you make sure that he is calling you for the "right" reasons?
If he is seeing other women, how do you make him drop those other women for you?
If you have these and other similar questions, you're NOT alone. Dating men doesn't need to be complicated, but it can feel that way when you don't know what goes on in his head and what he is thinking.
The best answer to this is to understand men and how they really think.
