He Dumped Me: Will I Survive, Or Can I Get Him Back?

There's two ways to look at your situation. On the one hand, you think you'll never get over the pain he caused you by breaking up with you. The second fear you might have is that nobody else will ever love you like he did. Maybe you think you could never find anyone else again.Let me tell you something, sweetheart. Even though your heart and head are throbbing right now, life does go on. The pain exists only in your head, not the rest of the world. Your entire life didn't come to an end because your boyfriend dumped you - in fact, a new chapter of your life can now begin.Consider that you still have family and friends who love you and care about you. You know, when you get into a romantic relationship with someone, he tends to take up a lot of your time and thought processes, inching out other people in your life. Now you can reconnect with these friends you might have been neglecting.Your other girlfriends might be going through the same thing, and you just don't know it. There's more women bemoaning those dreaded three words - he dumped me - than you realize. Sharing stories about each other's losses will show you and your friends just how vulnerable anyone's heart is, and that you're not the only poor soul suffering from a break-up.Then, you need to get your mind off of the boyfriend who dumped you. Take up a hobby, perhaps. If you don't participate in weekly activities, such as Pilates, you need to get involved! That's the only way you're going to be able to take your mind off of him. Really, when you keep telling yourself "he dumped me," you're actually telling yourself that you aren't worth crap, and because your ex-boyfriend doesn't want you anymore, no one does. Nothing is further from the truth! Taking up a hobby will get you thinking straight again and proving to yourself that you're worth it.There are lots of activities you can choose from. Consider joining a hiking club to learn more about the outdoors and meet adventurous types. Take a rumba, salsa or tango class to meet new potential dates and appreciate life's finer details. You could even join a poet's or writer's society and get really creative.The less you think about getting dumped and the guy who dumped you, the less desperate you'll feel. After all, you're in a very vulnerable state right now. You might be open to dating anyone just to fill the void your ex-boyfriend left in your heart. Thinking about activities other than a romantic relationship will adjust your mindset and get it back to constructive thinking.Truth is, you'll someday find someone else who wants you more than your ex-boyfriend. You'll get a life back with your true soulmate, mark my words.In fact, your ex-boyfriend might have done you a huge favor in breaking up; now you'll get the opportunity to find a better match!Forget about revenge - ripping out his tires and spray-painting his car won't make you feel any better or solve your problems. The best revenge for the "he dumped me" blues is just moving on!