No one would disagree that in recent years there has been something of a significant shift in the public perception of women who date toyboys - this has been, at least in part, accredited to the so called 'cougar' relationships of celebrities such as Demi Moore and Madonna who have made it fashionable for older women to look for younger men, but what is it that these guys see in women who are older? It's often said that middle aged women have a certain 'allure' - so why exactly is there such a magnetic attraction in the charms...
No one would disagree that in recent years there has been something of a significant shift in the public perception of women who date toyboys - this has been, at least in part, accredited to the so called 'cougar' relationships of celebrities such as Demi Moore and Madonna who have made it fashionable for older women to look for younger men, but what is it that these guys see in women who are older?
It's often said that middle aged women have a certain 'allure' - so why exactly is there such a magnetic attraction in the charms of the more mature woman?
We have drawn up a top five list -
1 - Confidence. Older women are often very worldly wise because of the vast amount of life experience they hold over their younger suitors. This can often result in guys being attracted to their confident aura - which may be the polar opposite of what they expect from girls their own age who can be more unsure of where they are going and exactly what they want from life.
2 - Independence. Women in their middle age tend to be financially independent which means that they won't be expecting the guys to always pay for everything, this often is warmly appreciated by the younger men who like the fact that they are given a more equal role in the relationship. Far from expecting their date to be a sugar mummy, most guys will feel happy that they are on an equal footing and balanced financial setting.
3 - Attractiveness - Although they may be quite a lot older than what is a stereotype for model features, women in their 40's and 50's can certainly hold their own in the looks department. They enjoy taking care of themselves and unlike previous generations are keen to stay young in both body and mind - more often than not they can still look fantastic at 50.
4 - Zest For Life - believe it or not, rather than slowing down and taking life more easy - many women hit the big 40 and see it as a trigger for really grabbing life by the horns and living life to the fullest. This chemistry works well with their 'toyboys' who have a similar get up and go attitude.
5 - Intelligence- with all that life experience behind them guys wanting interesting conversations and the knowledge that the lady they are dating really knows what she is talking about (and doesn't suffer fools gladly) can be a really liberating experience.
In conclusion - of course no relationship is perfect on a purely age related footing, but I hope this helps give an insight into why the chemistry in toyboy dating works so well from the mans point of view
