What About the G-Spot?

The G-spot, like the clitoris, the vagina and the anus, is a part of every woman's constellation of sex organs. It was named after the sex researcher, Ernst Grafenberg who first wrote about its erotic potential. In 1982, the paperback bestseller, The G-Spot and Other Recent Discoveries About Human Sexuality, by Alice Kahn Ladas, Beverly Whipple and John Perry, brought the G-spot and female ejaculation into the national spotlight. Female ejaculators who read the book understood that ejaculation is normal, and women who didn't ejaculate, became curious about it and wanted to learn.

The G-spot, also called the urethral sponge, is the tissue that wraps around the urethra and swells with fluid during sexual arousal. The urethra is the tube through which we urinate, and the vagina and the urethra run parallel to each other inside the body, like little train tracks that are very close together. As the spongy tissue around the urethra fills with fluid, the swelling pushes it into the vagina, and can be felt through the vaginal wall. When a woman ejaculates, it's the clear, watery fluid that has collected in this tissue that leaves a wet mark on the sheets.

G-spot orgasms

If you have orgasms, you probably noticed different kinds. Sometimes they feel like a roar of sexual energy, sometimes like a ripple of satisfaction. G-spot orgasms are like another instrument in the big band of sexual response. There's no one perfect G-spot orgasm technique.

Women describe their G-spot orgasms as deep, whole-body experiences. They can last longer and can be made up of more and longer contractions than other types of orgasm. Many women say their Gspot orgasms come after a number of little orgasms, when they are as turned on as they can get. Sometimes women discover this by surprise, when they happen to devote a little more time to sex. Some say Gspot orgasms are the most powerful they've ever had, and experience them as rolling waves of total sexual release.

G-spot myths and concerns

The very existence of the G-spot is a matter of debate among medical professionals, but it's as real as the nose on your face according to thousands of women who experience G-spot orgasms and ejaculation as a part of their sexual response. A lot of hype has sprung up around this part of female sexuality. Some common myths concerning the G-spot are:

Myth: Only some women have a G-spot.

Fact: Every woman has the urethral sponge and, while some women consider it their number one erogenous zone, others don't like how G-spot stimulation feels. Some women like other kinds of touch better, but just because a person doesn't like to play with it, doesn't mean it isn't there.

Myth: The G-spot is hard to find.

Fact: It doesn't take advanced sexual knowledge to find someone's G-spot - just a little time, some lube, your fingers and maybe a curved sex toy. Add your willingness to learn and a little instruction and you're all set to discover a whole new set of sexual thrills.

Myth: The G-spot is my ticket to sexual bliss.

Fact: A lot of people do find that the G-spot is the key to a whole new sexual world, but it doesn't work that way for everyone. Sexual exploration is joyful and exciting, but keeping your expectations reasonable and your sense of humor at the ready, will help you enjoy whatever the outcome of your sexual adventure may be.

Some say G-spot orgasms are the most powerful they've ever had, and experience them as rolling waves of total sexual release.

Myth: Is this really the case?

Fact: You'll never know until you try. Some people find female ejaculation a huge turn-on because it's a visible expression of sexual satisfaction.

Myth: If I don't enjoy G-spot stimulation and I don't ejaculate, I don't have a complete sex life.

Fact: Not all women get satisfaction from G-spot sex. It's true that all of the female sexual anatomy is basically the same, but that doesn't take into account everything else that creates a person's sexuality. If we each approach our sexuality with open curiosity and acceptance, we can find out what genuinely brings us satisfaction without feeling like we need to keep up with the Joneses.